I read a story once, I wish I could remember where, about a couple from the US who had been living in a very rural part of Africa when their two children were born.  When the kids were around 8 and 10 years old they brought them to the states for a visit.  Upon arriving at the airport in the US, the kids discovered an automatic door.  As the little boy stepped forward and back, opening the door over and over, the little girl stated matter of factly, “Well, it’s obviously magic.”

That made perfect sense to her, despite the fact that it seems like nonsense to the rest of us.  It’s not because she is not smart, but because that is the only conclusion that she can come to based on her current body of knowledge.  One can expect that with education she will understand that something she previous thought was impossible is actually easily explained. When given the information the young girl will have a choice:  She can accept the new information into her body of knowledge or she can refuse to believe it and go on believing that the door is magic. Her belief doesn’t change the truth, and she is the only one responsible for what she chooses to believe.

I think that’s how it often is with the Health at Every Size concept – people aren’t able to wrap their heads around it because there is simply nothing in their frame of reference that makes it seem possible that health and weight are two separate things. But once they have access to the information they can either add it to their body of knowledge or they can go on believing that weight and health are the same thing. Their belief doesn’t make it any more true. And we can’t be responsible for what other people believe.

I think it’s incredibly important to spread the word about Size Acceptance and Health at Every Size.  Every time we post something on Facebook or Twitter, or bring up our Size Acceptance/HAES practice, we are giving people an opportunity to question their stereotypes and add to their knowledge base.  We ARE NOT responsible for what they do or do not choose to do with this opportunity, we can only provide the opportunity.

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When it comes to weight and health, our society has a tendency to get a little bit of information and then jump to conclusions that only seem obvious based on our stereotypes and myths about weight and health.  Let’s look at some examples:

According to studies from the Albert Einstein School of Medicine, about 50% of overweight people and 30% of obese people are metabolically healthy. These fat healthy people are called a “paradox” and are ignored in discussions about health and weight.  According to basically  every weight loss study since 1959,  about 5% of people successfully maintain weight loss (and there is no guarantee that they are healthy). They are seen as proof that weight loss works, as successes,  and great effort is being made to study them to see how to make us all thin.  So we ignore 50% and 30% to study 5%.

There are all kinds of articles out talking about a study that found that fat doctors don’t talk to their patients about their weight (thanks to reader Lyn for sending this along).  Everyone jumps to the conclusion that this is a bad thing and that the doctors aren’t discussing weight loss because they are embarrassed of their size.  But what about the possibility that these doctors are living the abysmal success rate of weight loss.  Consider that doctors who don’t recommend weight loss are the only ones who are practicing evidence-based medicine.  You see, when it comes to weight loss there is not a shred of evidence that would lead those doctors who are pushing it to believe that it would work.  But hey, let’s jump to conclusions and criticize fat doctors for not giving people a prescription that fails 95% of the time?

Another one we hear a lot is how many fat people have type 2 diabetes.  What they don’t tell you is that doctors test fat people early and often for diabetes based on diagnostic criteria that have been recently lowered.  On the other side, thin people are not tested until they have severe symptoms and some doctors even mistakenly think that it’s not possible for thin people to get type 2 diabetes.  So, if Group A gets tested for a health issue very earlier and very often, and group B doesn’t get tested unless they have severe advanced symptoms,  how is it news that more people in group A are diagnosed with the health issues.

We have to rise above “everybody knows” and the way to do that is to question the status quo (in the wise words of Dr. Horrible,  “the status is not…quo.”)  The thing that makes great thinkers great is their ability to look at the world with a fresh eye.  We all have capability to do that – to look at the evidence and consider everything that it might be suggesting rather than just jumping to conclusions.

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Long time readers know of my undying love for Kung Fu Panda. Today I watched the sequel again and, in what may be my favorite scene, (very minor spoiler alert) Po’s master, Shifu, says that when Po was name the Dragon Warrior it was the worst day of the Master’s life.  But then Shifu realized that the problem was with him and not with Po and that allowed him to work through it. (end very minor spoiler alert)

And wouldn’t it be just dandy if everyone had that kind of self-awareness?  But that’s something we’re still working on as a society.  In the meantime there are still people who think it’s their job to decide who else is worthy. And we buy into every time we look to someone else to tell us if we’re beautiful or sexy.  Y’all, let me suggest that parking is the only place where you have to look to someone else for validation.

My lovely blog wife Karen (once in a fit of liking my blog she asked me to marry her in the comments and I accepted) posted an awesome quote from Gabourey Sibide “People always ask me, ‘You have so much confidence. Where did that come from?’ It came from me. One day I decided that I was beautiful, and so I carried out my life as if I was a beautiful girl.”

I think that’s the deal.  You give power to the posers every time you ask them if you’re pretty enough or if you’re sexy.  I’m not saying that it’s not cool to have people who tell you that you are beautiful and sexy, I’m suggesting that you let those people restate what you already know for sure. I’m ok if people don’t find me attractive, that’s not my thing to decide or change.  There are people who think I’m attractive and sexy and I will live alone with a herd of rescued Great Danes before I’m in a relationship with someone who doesn’t.

If you don’t claim and own your awesome, you leave your self esteem in the hands of the kind of people who try to make you feel bad to make them feel better and that doesn’t sound like a good plan to me.  If it’s not my parking slip, nobody’s validation is required.  If they can’t see that we’re beautiful and sexy. I think that’s sad for them.  If they figure it out then that’s great for everybody but all that is extraneous to us realizing it for ourselves.

I think that one of the things that can really help this along is noticing the beauty in other people.  When I started my journey it was easier to realize that other women who looked like me were beautiful and sexy and then it just started to seem dumb that I could see it in others but not myself and one day it just clicked.  Like “Oh, right …I’m beautiful and sexy.  Cool”.  It didn’t stick 100%  right away but the more I could see the beauty in others, the more I could see it in myself. I suggest trying it, if you decide you don’t enjoy feeling sexy and beautiful and appreciating the beauty and sexiness in others, you can always stop.

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Prejudice against people of size tries to dictate the things that we’ll never be – dancers,  actresses, athletes, pop stars, proud of our bodies, married, not on a diet etc. Remember Jennifer Hudson’s Weight Watchers commercial where she said “Before Weight Watchers my Whole World was can’t” when before WW she had been a finalist on American Idol, starred in a film and won an Oscar and a Grammy?

As a fat person, the message that I hear loud and clear is that the only thing society is interested in me achieving is weight loss.  This fat hating culture steals dreams, sometimes even before they can be dreamt.  Little fat kids like me who sing and dance for crowds of millions in our bedrooms are not encouraged to pack up our dreams and move to LA, we’re encouraged to pack a Lean Cuisine and hit the gym until we are thin and that then, and only then, can we start dreaming of anything else.

That’s why I love to see fat actors, actresses, athletes, dancers, and fat people who love their bodies – because they are stealing their dreams back, wresting them from strangle hold of prejudice, bigotry and oppression. Every time somebody refuses to base their self-esteem on whether or not they meet a cultural stereotype of beauty, every time a fat person wakes up and doesn’t hate themselves, every time someone refuses to acquiesce to the tremendous pressure to shut up and conform or at least acknowledge their “failure”, they start stealing their dreams back, and they become role models for others. Some of my favorite reader feedback is when someone sends me an e-mail to say that they took a dance or karate class, or tried something that they weren’t doing because they were fat.  This is one of the main reasons that I wanted to create the Fit Fatties Forum

If you had asked me three weeks ago I would have said that I’ve stolen all my dreams back, but it turns out that was a lie – I was playing it safe. Two weeks ago I took a trip to LA.  I traveled there to speak at CalTech which went really well, (I even convinced a Masters in Public Health group to change their focus from obesity prevention to health promotion).  While I was there I got to see Jennifer Jonassen perform and she was fantastic.  I got to see the amazing Jeanette DePatie give a great talk at her book signing.  I also got to meet Julianne and the awesome women from NAAFA‘s LA chapter who were inspiring in their support of each other, their work in the community, and their activism.  After I got home and started thinking about my trip,  I realized that I was cutting myself short on what I truly want in my life because I wasn’t sure if it was possible.

I’m extremely lucky in a number of ways.  I’m lucky that the things I love most (speaking, performing, and writing) are things that I’m good at, and fit well with the thing that I most want to accomplish with my life (fighting for civil rights and against weight bullying and oppression to make the world better for people of size).  So I made a decision.  I’m going to pack up my dreams and move to Los Angeles where I can continue my World Tour as well as looking for more opportunities to get on stage as a performer (where I love being more than anywhere else) and give people the chance to question their stereotypes about fat performers, and really steal back all of my dreams.

I’m looking forward to working with Jeanette, Jennifer, and NAAFA-LA and using the platform of LA to make a difference. (Thanks to every movie ever made about moving to LA and chasing your dreams, I know that you shouldn’t hide your money in a baggie in the toilet because it’s the first place thieves look – I’ve always wondered why those girls didn’t just get bank accounts).  Of course this means that I’m not moving to San Francisco and I’m sad about that because there are so many fantastic people there who I would love to work with.  But if I’m being honest, the truth is that I really want to roll the dice and see what kind of hell I can raise in LA.  Wish me luck!

Activism Opportunity

I’m doing a slideshow for iVillage called “Pictures of Health – Diet Quitters”.  It will involve a picture of you and answers to some questions about your experience going HAES.  If you are interested please E-MAIL ME at ragen at danceswithfat dot org!

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One of my biggest frustrations as a fat athlete is the lack of safe, comfortable forums that exist for me to discuss fitness goals, achievements, training tips, clothing options etc. There are lots of forums out there that discuss these things, but there are some major issues for me.

The first is overall goals: many of the people in these forums engage in fitness for the sole or very predominant purpose of manipulating the size and shape of their bodies.  That’s absolutely their right, but my goals are sport-specific performance and health from a Health at Every Size perspective and I don’t want to have to slog through a whole bunch of diet talk and weight loss challenges to read what interests me.

Also, while some are accepting of fat athletes, many spaces online are highly un-fat-friendly (remember the Runner’s forum comments when 400 pound Kelly Gneiting completed a marathon).  Finally, while I don’t mind being the token fat girl or token HAES practitioner, I really wanted a community chock full ‘o fatties and HAES practitioners

I started talking about the idea with Jayne Williams (Slow Fat Triathlete) who was kind enough to lend her time and expertise to shaping the project.  Then my now-good-friend,  fat fitness professional Jeanette DePatie (The Fat Chick) and I started talking about it and I found a get-shit-done soul mate!

In early January I told you that I was doing a super secret blog project and I asked for pictures of fat people doing physical things.  The response was awesome and we got over 150 pictures and they are absolutely amazing.   Today Jeanette and I are launching this project,  that has been months in the making, and that I’m as excited about as I have been about any project I’ve ever done.

Introducing The Fit Fatties Forum! 

The forum, which is free to use, is a place where people of all sizes and abilities can get support for being fit by their own definition (whether that means walking to the mailbox or finishing a marathon) in a safe, Health at Every Size  environment. It is a moderated forum that includes:

• Discussion threads (you can also create your own)
• Groups devoted to specific topics (and you can create your own)
• A Photo Gallery (you can add your own pictures)
• A Video Gallery (you can add your own videos)
• Ask a Fit Fatty – you can ask your questions about anything and get an answer from an expert

To join just go to www.fitfatties.com and follow the simple login process. (Even if you don’t join, I recommend checking it out to see the awesome banner of fit fatty pictures!)  If you have any problems please let me know. When you log in you’ll see all of the sections in the navigation bar at the top, you can see the community intro and agreements down the left hand side.  Read the agreements, then dive in, get involved, and make it your own!  We did a beta test so there are already a some members.  We are absolutely open to your feedback.  If you are so moved it would also be really fantastic if you would pass this information along to other super-cool people who might want to be involved.

Several people have asked us about the name – why we called it the “fit fatties forum” when we intend it to be for people of all sizes.  The reason is that when it comes to  fitness and athleticism, fat people are often ignored, erased, hidden, discouraged, and called liars.  The forum name was created to give fat people a tangible place in the fitness world, not to indicate exclusivity.  We are proud to be  fit fatties claiming our rightful place in the world of fitness, and we are happy to welcome people of all shapes, sizes and abilities to join us.

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I was on a panel for National Eating Disorder Awareness Week. At one point the dietician decided to remind us all that a pound of fat is the same as four sticks of butter and then went on to talk about how losing a half pound is “losing two sticks of butter” (said with disgust and grabbing and shaking her upper arm for emphasis.)

I pointed out that it might not be the wisest thing to suggest that people think of their bodies as sticks of butter to lose (especially not, you know, on an EATING DISORDER AWARENESS panel!).  This is one of the side effects of focusing on weight instead of health that I think is both really dangerous and overlooked.

When the focus is on weight, then people are often encouraged to like part of their body and hate part of their body, the idea being that the part of them that is fat is “the enemy” to be fought.  The problem with that is that people walk around with their bodies 100% of the time and hating part of themselves is not necessarily the best thing for people’s mental health.

One of the things I like about a Health at Every Size Perspective is that the focus is on habits and choices and nobody is encouraged to hate any part of themselves.

I think that as a society we have a dangerous tendency to completely overlook the mental aspects of health when it comes to people of size, often ignoring the toll it takes on people when they are told that until they get thin their bodies are proof that they are unhealthy, lazy, lacking in willpower, less intelligent, less productive, etc.), or that they should think of their bodies as gross, or thinking that if there is any chance that constant shame, stigma and humiliation will make them thin then it’s worth it and I don’t believe that’s the case at all.

When we take the attention off weight then we get to focus on health with none of the hate, which seems to me like the best of both worlds.

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One of my life goals is to be named to the President’s Council on Fitness, Sports and Nutrition.  The Council’s mission is “to engage, educate and empower all Americans to adopt a healthy lifestyle that includes regular physical activity and good nutrition.” I think that “all Americans” includes people who look like me and that Health at Every Size is a “healthy lifestyle that includes regular physical activity and good nutrition” and I think it would be amazing to be able to have influence at that level.  Especially since in 2002 the PCFSN (then the President’s Council on Physical Fitness) said “The health risks of obesity are largely controlled if a person is physically active and physically fit.”

But it’s not just the PCFSN,  there are thousands of “obesity intervention” programs going on that don’t have a single obese person as a member of their team.

Thousands of people who think that we need them to “save” us by telling us how to make our bodies look like they think everyone should look

Thousands of people and programs deciding what constitutes “appropriate” treatment of fat people in the process of eradicating us from the Earth.  Groups of thin people who are empowered by grants from federal, state, and local governments, insurance companies, public health non-profits, and their own exaggerated sense of self importance to decide what to do about, for, and to fat people..

Groups of thin people who decide, for example, that they should only use images of us with no heads, or fat kids looking depressed and dressed in ill-fitting clothes.

Then they get to dictate that the only appropriate response for fat people to have to these interventions is to agree with them that we are a plague upon the Earth and do what they think is right until we are thin and can participate in as many unhealthy behaviors as we want, as long as we don’t get fat again, and nobody will bother us.

If we refuse to obey and speak out that that those images are shaming, stigmatizing, or humiliating, then a group of people – that does not include any fat people – tells us that we’re wrong for feeling those things, and that the only correct way to feel is how they say we should.  I saw an article by a thin pediatrician who saw the Disney Habit Heroes Ride and said with certainty that “nobody’s vacation would be ruined” by seeing it.  How the hell would she know?  What is she, the fat-person whisperer? Back off lady.

It’s not that these people are ill-intentioned, or that there is anything wrong with them because they are thin, the problem is that if someone is thin then they have NO IDEA what it’s like to be fat in this society, and trying to create interventions to help people, especially people who haven’t asked for your help, without actually involving those people is horribly (and I would think obviously) misguided.

Compounding this problem is the fact that obesity has been so mischaracterized and overblown as a health problem, that people aren’t even required to show evidence that their intervention will be successful, or at the very least not more harmful.  Programs can make a guess (like “putting pictures of depressed looking fat kids in ill-fitting clothes on billboards will help kids be healthier”).  Then they throw around a bunch of scary statistics about obesity and nobody bothers to ask if they have any statistics to show that their intervention has any chance of success, or to prove that it’s not likely to harm the people it’s supposed to help.  We have studies (by Peter Muennig from Columbia University) that women who are concerned about their weight have more physical and mental illnesses than women who are fine with their size, regardless of their weight, and that the stress of constant stigma is correlated with the same diseases that are correlated with obesity.  So we are aware that public health interventions that cause people to be concerned about their weight may actually be causing the exact problems they purport to solve but somehow this isn’t important and the people who are likely being harmed aren’t given the opportunity to speak up.

This is ridiculous.  It’s a system built upon the idea that fat people aren’t the most credible witnesses to our own experiences, that we shouldn’t have a say in the way that we are treated, and that we need people to save us.  And that’s bullshit. We need to demand our place at the table.

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I’ve talked before about the three things that I think are most important for public health:

1. Fight for access
2. Make your own choices
3. Respect the choices of others

Today I want to expand on this a little bit:

Fight for Access

Lets look at four areas of access: food, movement, information, healthcare

When it comes to food I’m talking about people having access to the foods they would choose to eat (not the foods that anybody thinks they should eat).  That means that they can both acquire and afford them. Just a thought – if we stopped giving 60 billion dollars to the diet industry (an industry that has to say “it doesn’t really work” every time they even suggest that their project works) we could build 60,000 million-dollar farms including land, buildings, seed, and tractors.

With movement I am talking about making sure that people have safe movement options that they enjoy.  Safe includes physical safety and emotional safety.  For example, fat people may want to work out in a pool but in this culture being fat in a swimsuit in public can be terrifying – that doesn’t qualify as safe.  People who practice from a Health at Every Size perspective are not in a safe space if they are being pummeled with a “burn those calories, lose that weight, fear the muffin top” message while they are trying to enjoy moving their bodies, for me it also ruins my enjoyment of movement. Again, if we stopped giving 60 billion a year to the diet industry we could build 60,000 community centers for $500,000 each and use the other $500,000 to make them sliding scale so that everyone can afford them.

Access to information is tricky. I think that it would be awesome if there were trained researchers who were paid to simply put research in layman’s terms, including a discussion of the limitations of the research so that peole know what’s going on.  I think it would be a good first start if our information about nutrition, fitness, and health wasn’t funded by and reported by people with strong financial investment in the outcome. I wish more researchers were like Linda Bacon and would look at the existing research through a more critical eye and question the status quo. I wish that people could take classes in “how to read a study” so that they could get studies and understand them.

Access to good evidence-based healthcare is perhaps the most difficult under the current culture.  First, you have to be able to afford it – made more difficult if we, as fat people, can’t get insurance or can’t afford the insurance for which we qualify because our body size is held against us (can you imagine the outrage if tall people were charged more?)  You also have to be able to get off work to go see a doctor, afford to take the time off work, and have transportation to get there.  If you can overcome those challenges you have to find a healthcare provider who can actually offer good evidence based healthcare (rather than just diagnosing us as fat and prescribing weight loss). Then, if you want to take the medications the doctor recommends, you have to be able to afford the prescription medications that are priced to support the multi-billion dollar pharmaceutical industry’s need to maintain fiduciary responsibility to their shareholders.  To be clear I think that people should have access to the healthcare that they choose and that includes doctors, acupuncturists, chiropractors etc.

Make Your Own Choices

Use whatever methods you prefer – do your own research, work with professionals, do whatever comes into your head.  It’s your choice.  It’s your body, you are 100% the boss of your underpants.

Respect Other People’s Choices

Regardless of how much we might disagree with their choices.  We are 100% NOT the boss of other people’s underpants. People’s right to punch ends at the tip of someone else’s nose.  If you find your nose unaffected that’s how you know it’s not your business.  This is for everyone’s own good.  One of deeply problematic arguments that I hear about this is  “Other people’s behavior costs me tax dollars so this is about me”.  Here’s the problem with that:

Personal responsibility does not mean that we are personally responsible for doing what other people think we should and it’s quite a slippery slope when we start to decide whose healthcare we should pay for.  Should vegans only have to pay for the healthcare of other vegans?  I don’t drink, smoke or do drugs – should I not have to pay for the healthcare costs of those who do?  Can I say that I’m willing to pay for the healthcare of the victim of a drunk driving accident but not the drunk driver?  What if I don’t want to pay for accidents of people who drive in the merge lane?  As a professional competitive dancer I train strength, stamina, flexibility, and dance 15 hours per week, should I not have to pay the healthcare costs of thin people who are sedentary? What about people who choose stressful jobs and don’t get enough sleep? What about people who choose to mountain climb, BASE jump,  bungee jump, luge, or not look both ways before they cross the street?  What about people who speed, or choose cars that have less safety features, or choose to live in highly polluted areas?  Who deserves healthcare?  Every single person participates in behaviors that other people think that they shouldn’t.  I believe in compassion and in giving people preventative healthcare when they are well, evidence-based healthcare when they’re sick, and the opportunity to believe that their bodies are worthy of care by creating a body-shame-free world.  Then, as previously mentioned, respect their choices.

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Before I get to the Georgia Billboard Project announcement, there’s some stuff I want to say:  There has been a lot of friction on this blog the past couple of days as we’ve talked about what we believe and who we are as a movement and I think that’s a good thing. We are working on a paradigm shift, and another word for paradigm shift is Revolution, and that’s not an easy thing to do. I think that one of the most difficult things about our task is that on top of the giant pile ‘o crap that we get from society, there are difficult conversations to have with each other and it can be easy to lose sight of our progress in the midst of all this, so I wanted to remind us of some recent victories:

When Strong4Life started their fat shaming project it took a ton of work to get anyone to question it but that work succeeded as the I Stand posters poured out,  statements against fat shaming were made by everyone from television stars to mommy bloggers to the National Institutes for health, and we raised over $20,000 for a counter campaign.

After all the work the community did around that project, the response to the fat shaming Disney Ride was swift and definitive as experts recognized the shaming nature of the ride and the community immediately responded in news stories around the world.  Disney closed the ride for re-tooling right quick (as we say in the South). We are starting to show the world that the worldwide HAES and SA communities will fight fat oppression and weight bullying wherever we find it.  Mess with one of us, mess with all of us.

The Rolls Not Trolls Facebook community has become a team of people who go into fat-negative online discussiosn and create a coordinated effort to inject a respectful HAES/SA message.

One of the major things that made all of this possible is the online HAES/SA community that is full of amazing activists who are educating, supporting each other, and fighting for the civil rights of people of size. In fact, I’m declaring today to be a “Thank a Fat-Positive Activist Day”.  Consider taking a moment to send an e-mail, facebook, or tweet to say thanks to an awesome activist/blogger who you appreciate.  Trust me when I tell you that this will make their day. Looking for someone to thank?   You can check here for a list of people whose work I love and am inspired by.

Speaking of that Georgia Billboard Project, I haven’t posted an update in a while and that’s because i didn’t want to tell you until I was sure: Remember how we wanted to raise $10,000 for one billboard and they told us it couldn’t be done.  Remember how we raised $21,720.20 in a week and we were super excited that we were going to get a billboard and five bus shelter ads?

Well, Allan – our billboard rep in Georgia – got excited about the project and he got us a deal. On March 26th, SIX (that’s right 6) full size billboards and TEN (yup, 10) bus shelter signs will go up around Atlanta.  The billboards and bus shelter signs will send a powerful anti-shame message and will send people to resource websites for information about the HAES and SA communities.  They will be up until 5/20 and the reach is going to be huge. There are so many people involved in this project – Marilyn Wann and Atchka, who helped initiate the whole thing including the idea for the Big Fat Money Bomb. NAAFA who helped with getting the word out and offered of all kinds of awesome support, BEDA who offered their support in lots of way,  More of Me to Love with their $5,000 matching donation, VoluptuArt with their sponsorship, everyone who donated any amount, everyone who talked about it on Facebook, Twitter, e-mail, and blogs, everyone who designed a billboard – this was a MASSIVE effort of the community and I am just busting out with pride for what we accomplished. I’m definitely going to Atlanta, if anybody wants to join me and plan a fatty & friends pilgrimage to Atlanta to look at our beautiful billboards and bus shelter signs and celebrate just let me know and we’ll get it coordinated. Viva La Billboards!

And I think that this deserves a song.  The song I pick is called “Here’s to Us” by a band called Halestorm because I just heard it tonight and it seems perfect for the occasion.  It has profanity that I happen to enjoy but that makes it NSFW unless your boss is cool.

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I wrote yesterday about some of the issues with the Health At Every Size paradigm as it is voiced publicly, but there are a number of other issues that come up as people are transitioning to and practicing HAES.

One of the things that I like best about HAES, based on my understanding of it, is that it’s about a paradigm and not about a specific set of behaviors. So each person gets to prioritize health as they wish and choose their own path either on their own or in concert with professionals who are focused on their health rather than their weight. To me it’s not just about Health At Every Size, but also about every circumstance – doing what I can, with what I have, where I am, based on my own priorities and goals.

When I started on the HAES path things were complicated by the fact that I came to HAES from a diet/weight centered mentality where there were good and bad foods, strict rules and regulations, and the goal was to be thin – period.

Choosing HAES meant taking my health into my own hands, looking at the health messages that I had received with a critical eye, setting my own goals and making my own choices.

One of the things that makes this more difficult is that we can escape the diet mentality but we can’t always escape people who want to tell us all how to eat and what to do, but call it Health At Every Size.  Mostly these people act like health, especially food choice, is an all or nothing thing.  Typically they want to bring back the good food/bad food labels that I left behind when I walked away from my dieting days.  Health is much more gray than black and white and it’s a continuum.

Just like I’m not interested in a life of drinking protein shakes and eating carb-less meals or risking being called a diet failure, I’m not interested in home cooking every meal from scratch from only locally grown vegetables warmed in a sweater knitted by someone’s grandmother or risk being called a HAES failure. I assume that anyone who is telling me how I have to eat, whether they are calling it HAES or MediFast or whatever, however well-intentioned they think they are, is working from an over-exaggerated sense of self-importance and/or trying to feel superior/important/whatever and I don’t have to put up with bad behavior because of good intentions.

There can also be a tremendous intrinsic pressure to be “perfect” in our HAES practice because we are the new paradigm on the block and so people are watching us.  We get accused of using HAES to justify our fatness (ie: if people stop weight loss dieting they’ll do nothing but eat Twinkies all day long), or accused of giving up because we opt out of a dieting/weight loss culture.

Personally I have definitely felt this pressure. It has been suggested that as a blogger and activist I am obligated to publish a food diary. I’ve talked about what happens if I do get sick and what happens if I’m wrong.  I’ve had to learn about the dangers of trying to “prove it” the hard way, but sometimes I still struggle with it.

In fact, last week I was in LA for a talk at CalTech and to meet awesome people and hang out. I had fast food breakfasts, ate hotdogs and toasted marshmallows, and skipped workouts.  I started to feel really stressed about it, but I realized that from a long-term health perspective the eating and skipping workouts for a week are not really a big deal but stressing out about it can be.  So I put it in perspective that I ate delicious things, honored my hunger, rested my body, and I also tried new things (beet salad and cornmeal crust pizza!) and had a bunch of fun (Thanks Julianne, Jeanette, Jennifer, Terri, Anastasia, NAAFA-LA and CalTech’s event staff).  To me that’s a HAES success and since it’s my health we’re talking about, mine is the only opinion that matters.

As our movement gains more attention I think that we should take care to stick to working on creating paradigm change and giving people access to information, food options, movement options and healthcare rather than telling people how to behave or what they should do or want when it comes to their health. Health At Every Size is not about what any one person thinks everyone else should do. I also think it’s important to recognize the pressures that comse along with the microscope that people working for social change can be under. As with so many things it’s not our fault but it becomes our problem.  I think that the best we can do is be true examples of Health at Every Size as it works in real life rather than trying to be pictures of pretend perfection. Our ability to prioritize and make choices that are as individual as we are is our strength and I think that hiding that is a mistake.

Disney Update

I blogged about how I think Disney could fix their Habit Heroes exhibit for NBC’s iVillage.  If the mood strikes you and you want to read and maybe even comment that would be awesome!

This blog is supported by its readers rather than corporate ads.  If you feel that you get value out of the blog, can afford it, and want to support my work and activism, please consider a paid subscription or a one-time contribution.  The regular e-mail subscription (available at the top right-hand side of this page) is still completely free.   Thanks for reading! ~Ragen