“Do you need to eat that?” Has this question ever been asked in a way that wasn’t passive aggressive fat/food shaming? As we eat with our families and/or friends (perhaps over zoom) this holiday season, I wanted to give some options for responding to this utterly bullshit question, put together in a not-so-silent movie.
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One thought on “Options To Answer The Question: “Do You Need To Eat That””
For some reason this makes me feel like being petty.
“Eat what?” I’d query, putting food on my plate.
“That (fill in the blank:cookie,pie,cake,roll,snackmix,pesto,bicarb,TAB,whipping cream,edible panties,). You know it’s bad for you?”
“What is bad for you?” I reply, take bite of forbidden foodstuff.
“You shouldn’t be eating that. It isn’t healthy, it’s loaded with (fill in blank: fat,carbs,sugar,gluten,amphetamines,lint,tobaco,dark matter.)”
“What isn’t healthy?” Take another bite, possibly put whole cookie in mouth, chew, swallow, smile.
“Well, you’re just digging your grave with that (fill in the blank: cookie, dessert, crescent roll, eclair, fruit horn).”
“Take some doing, dig a grave with a crescent roll.”
If they’re going to be rude, there’s no reason to be reasonable. Maybe squish down next to them on the couch later and ask them personal questions about their bowels.