Food policing happens whenever someone tries to insert themselves into the choices you are making around food. It can sound like, “Do you need to eat that?” or, “Are you sure you want seconds?” It can even be a backhanded and condescending, “Good for you for making a healthy choice!” Is there anything more fun than being under surveillance by the Friends and Family Food Police? There are a few of things that come to mind immediately — root canal, shaving my head with a cheese grater, a fish hook in the eye… This happens to almost all of my fat friends, but to be clear it happens to thin people too — food judgment and shaming happens to people of all sizes.
The way you know that a comment about your food choices is not OK is that you aren’t OK with it. That’s the entire test. People do not have a right to give you unsolicited comments/advice about your food choices. This is something that can happen anytime of the year, but it’s rampant at the holidays. (I’m already hearing about experiences people had at Thanksgiving while eating with their families over Zoom!)
This year I wrote about options for dealing with this for The Mighty.
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The Truth About Weight And Health
There are a lot of beliefs, myths, and misconceptions that float around when it comes to the relationship between weight and health. In this workshop we’ll discuss them from science and social justice perspectives.
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Topics will include:
- What the research says about weight and health
- Why do so many people, including doctors, say that weight loss will make you healthier? (And why are they wrong?)
- Common issues with the research around weight and health, and how to spot them
- How to discuss the research with skeptics
- Answers to the questions
- But what about fat people’s effect on my tax dollars?
- Can you be fat and healthy?
- Shouldn’t we treat fat people like we treat smokers?
- Does being fat cause health issues?
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