If you’re an avid reader of the blog you may have seen me post about this before. But people keep doing it so I’m gonna keep talking about it.
You know how we hate it when people say that fat bodies are unattractive/not as attractive as thin bodies, or that people can tell what we eat, how much we exercise and how healthy we are based on our body size, or that all fat people are diseased, etc.?
How about we don’t do that EXACT. SAME. THING. to thin people. How about we never say again “she needs to eat a sandwich” or “real women have curves” or “you can’t be healthy when you’re that thin”.
This is not cool. I’ve heard, and I reject, the argument that because thin people have thin privilege we can just bash them all we want. This isn’t the Oppression Olympics – it’s not about who gets oppressed worse, it’s about nobody getting oppressed at all. And let’s remember that although they undoubtedly benefit from thin privilege, that doesn’t mean that every thin person goes looking for it. Much of privilege is conferred and trying to tear somebody else down rarely makes our situation better.
I’m always sad when I see fat people posting cartoons on Facebook or Twitter that shame thin bodies, happily commenting “Bigger is better!” or whatever. I think that because fat women are so beaten down, told so often that our bodies are less than, that we are just so excited when someone suggests that “bigger is better” we don’t always think it all the way through. In truth I think bigger isn’t better or worse, it’s just different. I think being for Size Acceptance means accepting all sizes. I think it’s best to avoid being a hypocrite of epic proportions. I don’t believe that I can call my self a Size Acceptance advocate unless I fight as ferociously for society to recognize the beauty of flat chested women with thin boyish bodies as I do for women who look like me and everyone else. To me Size Acceptance is about realizing that every body is beautiful, not trying to convince people that my body is better than someone else’s.
Nobody should have to live in the environment of hate and judgment in which fat people currently reside. And that includes thin people. Doing the wrong thing in the opposite direction is not the same as doing the right thing.
Again, I understand why people do this, I know how fat people get treated in this society and how it hurts. But that doesn’t make it right and I hope you’ll consider 1. Choosing to just stop body snarking altogether and 2. Gently pointing it out when you see it. Body stigma hurts everyone and stigma just breeds more stigma. Why don’t we be the ones to stop it.
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