Debating around Health at Every Size (HAES) is something that has been coming up a lot in e-mails that I’m answering so I decided to just address it here.
Before I get too far into this, a quick reminder that Health at Every Size is a paradigm for health and healthcare (including mental health, personal health, public health, and healthcare) which advocates for weight-neutral health paradigm that includes things like dismantling oppression, and creating equal access. An individual’s personal health, by any definition, isn’t an obligation, barometer of worthiness, entirely within our control, or anyone else’s business unless we ask them to make it our business. And nobody has to practice “health” by any definition to be covered by Size Acceptance, which encompasses the fact that fat people (of any health status) have the right to exist in fat bodies without shame, stigma, bullying, or oppression, and it doesn’t matter why they are fat or if they could or want to become thin.
Also, a reminder that while you are certainly allowed to choose to engage in a discussion/debate/argument etc., you are not obligated to justify your choices to people. You are allowed to make choices about your health and, if people question them, simply say “I’m not interested in discussing this with you, luckily there are lots of things to talk about!” and/or change the subject “Hey, did you know that Cap’n Crunch’s boat is named the S.S. Guppy?” and/or just find a reason to get out of the conversation “Hey, look, bundt cake!” then charge confidently across the room.
If you do decide to debate, you can also set the terms. When I end up in a situation where a weight-loss vs HAES paradigm/intervention is being discussed/debated one-on-one, my first instinct is to give the person I’m discussing it with a ton of research/evidence (this is an excellent source for that research by the way). To me, that’s the clearest way to explain, plus I talk about the studies all the time at speaking gigs, so I have the studies and associated numbers top of mind.
The problem is that the thinner = healthier paradigm is so ingrained in our culture (thanks diet companies!) that people think they can negate a mountain of evidence with an “everybody knows” argument, or with anecdata (my friend’s husband’s second cousins’ babysitter’s mom lost weight blah blah blah.)
I have learned that – especially with someone who is suggesting that I should engage in an intentional weight loss attempt (like, for example, a doctor) – it can be very helpful to put the burden of proof on them, often by saying something like
“My evaluation of the research is that significant, sustained weight loss is the least likely outcome of an intentional weight loss attempt, with the most unlikely outcome of a weight loss attempt being weight gain. Can you show me the evidence that you have that refutes that?’
In my experience language like this has worked best with healthcare providers, but obviously your mileage may vary, and you might want to take a different track because of what’s comfortable for you, and/or who you are talking to.
Some plainer language:
“My research shows that most of the time diets don’t work, and most people gain back the weight, it sounds like you disagree with that – can you tell me the studies you are basing your option on?”
Or less aggressive language:
“That’s a really interesting recommendation, I’d love to read more about that. What studies do you think would be best to read?”
Spoiler alert – regardless of the language you choose, there isn’t any research that actually refutes it There is no study where more than a tiny fraction of participants maintain significant weight loss long-term (for more than 5 years.)
Note that the conversation is different if someone is suggesting stomach amputation or dangerous diet drugs since in addition to questionable efficacy, these so-called interventions risk one’s life and quality of life. In this case I simply explain that no possible outcome of the surgery is worth risking my life or quality of life.
Perhaps most importantly, remember that we can only ever control whether or not we give someone information, we can never control the reaction or outcome. Even when confronted with research, people can still choose to bring “everybody knows” to an evidence fight.
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I mentioned that I want to have more fun with my activism this year. As part of that, I’ll be doing a stand-up comedy set as a guest performer at the FATCH New Year, Same You show on January 10th at 9pm at the Upright Citizens Brigade Theater on Sunset in Los Angeles. Tickets and info can be found here (Accessibility info: there is a fat-friendly bench in the front, the rest of the seating is stadium theater seats with arms up at least one step. The venue is wheelchair accessible, but there is limited space for wheelchairs.)
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