Today I want to talk about the people who say things like: “We shouldn’t treat fat people badly, but they are unhealthy and we need to help them get thin and prevent other people from becoming fat.” I understand that these people are trying, so I also try, really hard, not to say “Hey, fuck off.” While this is certainly better than the “let’s shame, stigmatize, bully, and harass the shit out of fat people!” crowd, it’s still not ok.
The evidence is not nearly so cut and dried as people think when it comes to weight and health. But that doesn’t really matter because our health is between us and our chosen healthcare providers, not us and anyone who has an opinion.
While I appreciate someone treating me well, what I truly value is people respecting that I am the best witness to my experience. So when I say that my body is fine, that I’m happy with the path to health I’ve chosen, the proper response is “awesome”, not “Well, I don’t think you should be treated badly, but I do want to eradicate you and everyone who looks like you from the Earth and make sure that there are no more.”
I don’t intend to speak for anyone else, but for me – I am my body. The actual body that I live in. Someone either respects my body, or they don’t. Loving the thin woman they believe lives inside me is unacceptable to me. Because I know that there is no thin woman in there – I’m a fat woman who deserves to be treated with basic human respect regardless of what someone believes I could or should look like. I am the best witness to my experience, if someone wants to know about me – they should ask. They should not guess, or worse, have the audacity to think that they know better than me about me.
When it comes to me, if you hate the fat then you’re not allowed to love this fatty.
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