Resources for the “Holidays”

Fatphobia ToolboxToday I’ve received several hundred emails from people who are dreading the holiday because their families treat them poorly because of their size – which is bullshit, obviously. For many people, holidays are filled with fun family get togethers and happy memories and festivities. For many people, it’s very much not.

People for whom “the holidays” aren’t so happy often don’t feel like they can talk about it, which makes it extra suck.  So I just wanted to take a moment to acknowledge that and let you know that this is a safe space, and to provide some resources:

Dealing with family and friends food police

Combating holiday weight shame

The Holiday Boundary Song

Dealing with people who can’t handle you setting boundaries

There is a discussion thread about this over on Shakesville.

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4 thoughts on “Resources for the “Holidays”

  1. Merry Christmas everyone…thank you for allowing me to be part if such an amazing community here on Ragen’s blog. May you be happy, healthy and loved in the new year.

  2. Thank you for this! It means so much that you go out of your way to help as many of us as you can – it really makes a huge difference in many of your lives. And to do it on Christmas Eve even, when I know you’re probably really busy – THANK YOU!

    Merry Christmas, Ragen!

  3. Thanks! For about 3 years (I think), I’ve read your Christmas blog post. It has helped me face the dreaded food police meal! Merry Christmas & thanks for the help!

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