It’s Not About Them

OrganizeIn a situation that is both exciting and a little bit terrifying, the Fat Activism Conference is almost here.  Starting Friday afternoon and ending Sunday night, we’ll bring together hundreds of participants and forty amazing speakers from around the world to give everyone involved tools and perspectives to support intersectional fat activism.  It’s an exciting ride, a bit bumpy sometimes but also really amazing.  I’m so grateful to my co-coordinator Jeanette DePatie and all of the fabulous speakers.  If you want to know more about the conference, you can check it out at (And if you want to request some good vibes from the technology gods for us this weekend, I wouldn’t be mad!)

But what I want to talk about today is why the conference exists.  It started during the Q&A at a lecture series I was giving at a college.  One of the students asked me what I thought was the most important thing for the fat activism movement going forward and I said that it was having more people doing fat activism.

When I talk to people about this one of the common things I hear is that in a world that is so full of fatphobia  it seems like we never make any progress and activism seems pointless.  I know that progress does get made, but the reason I think that we need as many people as possible doing fat activism isn’t because of changing the world, or convincing the haters.  It’s not about them.

To me it’s first and foremost about what activism does for us.  It is going to take some time to end fatphobia, at this moment in time we may not be able to stop everyone from stereotyping, stigmatizing, bullying and oppressing fat people, but we can stop buying into it and we take a stand against it.  Nobody is ever obligated to do activism of any kind, and it can definitely involve risk, but it’s an option (and risk is the currency of revolution.)

To me the first, and possibly the most powerful, moment of activism is when somebody, whether it’s the diet industry, a hater, or some misguided soul who actually thinks that they can oppress us for our own good, tries to make us believe that we are flawed, that we are not enough, that we should hate ourselves, and we say No.  Not this time.  Never again.  No.

That’s activism.  In fact, in this culture waking up and not hating ourselves is not just activism, it’s an act of revolution. I don’t ever want to tell anyone how to live, but I do want to make sure that people know that they have options and that those options include refusing to participate in their own oppression, even if the only place they do activism is in their own head.

Every bit of activism changes the world, not just because it affects the world, but because it affects the person doing the activism and the way that they relate to the world.  Once we are liberated everything is different.  We may have bad days, we may have times of hopelessness, but we know that we will never again allow our oppressors to convince us to take part in our oppression, we will never again give the bullies our lunch money.  I don’t know about you but as far as I’m concerned if they want a “War on Obesity” I will damn well give them one and I want to support as many people as possible who want to do the same, however they want to do it – whether they want to change how they feel about themselves or change the whole fucking world.

If you’re looking for some tools for the revolution, check out the Fat Activism Conference Three days, 40 speakers, 30 workshops, teleconference style so that you can access the workshops on the phone or computer from wherever you are, recordings so you can access the workshops live or on your own time, tools for everything from armchair activism to marching on the White House only $39 with a pay-what-you-can-afford option to make it accessible to as many people as possible.  Check it out!

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8 thoughts on “It’s Not About Them

  1. I’m very interested in the conference but this weekend isn’t good for me. If I sign up will I be able to access the recordings in a couple of weeks when I’m on vacation and have time? Will I be able to listen more than once?

  2. Not every act of activism makes a big difference in the world, but ANY act of activism can be a change of some size in your world. Whether you start a petition, organize a march, or just resolve to order what you really want to eat at lunch without worrying whether anyone else thinks you should be eating it… it all goes into the pool of activism. It all makes a difference, even if the only difference you see is one meal where you think less about whether anyone is judging what is on your plate.

    And if every one of us performs one act of activism a day, just think how much we can change.

    (I am Twistie, and I approve this activist message)

  3. It’s a ripple effect. One act of rebellion at a time will eventually create waves. Enough waves will create a tsunami. We’ll eventually have enough force to shatter the status quo of diet culture and fatphobia. For now, I’m happy to be a visible and happy fat person who doesn’t buy into the bs our society tries to get us to believe. I’m proud to be creating ripples in the way I interact with others, the information I share with others, heck just being a happy and confident fat person in public can help change others perceptions of fat people and/or themselves.

    Thanks to blogs like this one, I get to detox and strip away the lies and toxic messages that popular media and society flings on me just about everywhere I turn. Thanks to activists like you, I am able to create a very different life than I would otherwise have if I hadn’t discovered Fat Acceptance.

    Thank you, Ragen!

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