Today I want to talk about the people who say: “We shouldn’t treat fat people badly, but they are unhealthy and we need to help them get thin and prevent other people from becoming fat.” I understand that the person is trying so I also try, really hard, not to say “Hey, fuck off.”
I’m not going to make the entire health argument today, suffice it to say that the evidence is not nearly so cut and dried as people think when it comes to weight and healthy, and my health is between me and my chosen healthcare providers, not me and anyone who has an internet connection and an opinion.
While I appreciate someone treating me well, what I truly value is people respecting that I am the best witness to my experience. So when I say that my body is fine, that I’m happy with the path to health I’ve chosen, the proper response is “awesome”, not “Well, I don’t think you should be treated badly, but I do want to eradicate everyone who looks like you from the Earth and make sure that there are no more.”
I don’t intend to speak for anyone else, but for me – I am my body. The actual body that I live in. Someone either respects my body and my choices, or they don’t. Loving the thin woman they believe lives inside me is unacceptable to me. Because I know that there is no thin woman in there – I’m a fat woman who deserves to be treated with basic human respect regardless of what someone believes I could or should look like. I am the best witness to my experience, if someone wants to know about me – they should ask. They should not guess, or worse, have the audacity to think that they know better than me about me.
When it comes to me, you cannot hate the fat but not the fatty.
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